Fourteen years ago this week, my 68-year-old father told his wife that he was very happy with his life — he loved his three children, had rich friendships, and was looking forward to working from home after years of going to an office. Then he went to sleep and died. I am pretty sure that was not what he had planned. [Read more…] about Not What I Had Planned
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Quote of the Week for Nov. 28
“The secret of my success is that at an early age I discovered that I was not God.” — Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
Quote of the Week for Nov. 21
“No trumpets sound when the important decisions of our life are made. Destiny is made known silently.” — Agnes de Mille
Quote of the Week for November 14
“Do not fear mistakes — there are none.” — Miles Davis
Working Through The Fear
Last week, I was struggling with what a friend of mine calls a “doom loop.” For the uninitiated (lucky you), a doom loop is fear gone wild, usually prompted by a minor setback combined with sheer exhaustion, and looks like this: Through very imaginative yet destructive trains of thought, you convince yourself that your decision to go against the norm and follow your own desires (e.g., be an artist, go back to school, stand up to your boss) was a foolish, disastrous mistake and you will now be left alone and penniless. Serves you right. [Read more…] about Working Through The Fear