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The Elephant in My Room

October 21, 2016 by Tricia Rose Burt

This could be you!
Apparently you can just order these on the internet

Growing up, we didn’t talk about politics. It was considered impolite and inappropriate. Also, no one in my family was politically involved except if a friend ran for office — I have a vague recollection of holding a “Bill Poe for Mayor” sign when I was 14 on the side of the road in Tampa (I’m seriously aging myself) but that’s about the extent of it.

 

Breaking Tradition

I was raised Republican, but many years ago as I determined what was important to me, I broke from my tribe, registered independent, and now regularly vote left of center (read how well that went over here). After an accidental political discussion, a family member once accused me of turning into a liberal feminist. I replied, “I know you think those are insults, but actually, I’m quite flattered.”

Despite my left leanings, I pride myself on having an extremely diverse circle of friends gathered over many years and many different locales — liberal Christians, fiscal conservatives, struggling artists, members of the one percent, a variety of races and religions — and because of that I’ve spent most of my life telling my Republican friends that not all Democrats are demonic, and telling my Democrat friends that not all Republicans are evil. Sadly, I’m not so sure my opinion makes a difference.

Doesn't this seem like a much friendlier tone?
Doesn’t this seem like a much friendlier tone? Kind of like Dancing with the Stars.

The Times They are a Changin’

So between my upbringing of not talking about politics and my futile attempts to make sure everyone gets along, I rarely express my own political views, and certainly not on social media. But as with so many Americans, this year changes everything.

As I mentioned in an earlier blog, over the course of a decade I was both sexually harassed and groped by a college professor, two bosses, and a respected leader of the community — all men in authority and supposed role models. Like most women during that time, I didn’t understand how abusive these acts were, and put my feelings of confusion and shame in a box. The revelations of the past several weeks released those feelings again and ignited a deep anger at their sense of entitlement.

There are women in this world who have it much worse than I did and I do — enduring unspeakable sexual assaults, no access to education, no ability to travel without a man’s permission, and no opportunity to make their own choices without fear of humiliation and in some cases death (e.g., honor killings). As Michelle Obama so eloquently stated, the United States is on the forefront of advocating for women’s rights worldwide. We will completely lose our moral authority with a president who treats women with complete disrespect and disregard. The ripple effects will be felt far and wide. For that reason — and for many more that override the flaws that she has — I’m voting for Hillary Clinton.

I’m With Her

As a woman, I’m with her.

As a Christian, I’m with her.

And as an American who is dedicated to the melting pot that is this country, I’m with her.

No doubt I may lose some blog followers, which will make me sad. I hope you’ll stick around for the majority of my blogs that don’t venture into politics. But I’ve learned you can’t win — I’ve lost followers because I’ve mentioned religion, and I’ve lost followers because I wasn’t religious enough. I’m just going to write what I write.

To my conservative Christian friends, please read this article about Christian women speaking out about Donald Trump, including prominent evangelicals.

To my liberal friends who voted for Bernie and who are considering not voting or casting a protest vote, please watch this:

Regardless of who you support, please vote. Courageous women and men fought long and hard (literally) so we can exercise this right.

Eric and me casting our absentee ballot
Eric and me casting our absentee ballots

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Filed Under: General Thoughts Tagged With: absentee ballots, Democrat, Hilary Clinton, Michelle Obama, Presidential Election, Republican, sexual assault, vote

Learning How to Be Married in 18 Easy (And Sometimes Hard) Years

September 22, 2016 by Tricia Rose Burt

On September 4, my husband, Eric Masterson, and I celebrated our 18-year wedding anniversary. Two days later, he headed out on a six-month bike trek to follow the migratory path of the broad winged hawk from New Hampshire to South America, a journey that will cross 5 time zones, 40 degrees of latitude, and 5,000 miles — research for his next book. For some reason, I’m oddly calm about the whole thing.

Eric's send off, complete with a police escort
Eric’s send off, complete with a police escort

Letting Go of the Known

Eric’s been thinking about this trip for more than four years. During that time, I tried to not-so-subtly steer him towards book projects that kept him closer to home and closer to me, in the delusion that proximity to me would keep him safe (did I mention I’m all powerful?) and the misconception that living together at all times was what married people did. We were already challenging that last idea — I’d begun spending several months away from home in Nashville working on my own creative endeavors and our marriage was surviving just fine, if not flourishing in a new way. Eric’s proposed trip, however, had a large element of physical risk. I am not good with physical risk. I also have some control issues.

One day, Eric looked at me and said, “Tricia, I know you worry about me being dead on the side of road in Guatemala, but if I don’t do this, it’s death by a thousand cuts.”

And that logic, if that’s what it is, I completely understood. I wrote and performed an 80-minute one-woman show, How to Draw a Nekkid Man, based on that very premise. In fact, the exact line in my show is, “I knew if I did this consulting work for much longer I was going to die. Slowly, but I was going to die.” Right after that line (and in real life), I left everything I knew and moved to Ireland to become an artist. From that perspective, a 5,000-mile solo bike trek to South America made perfect sense to me.

Like-Minded Souls

A dear friend once summed up both of us: “Neither one of you breeds well in captivity.” He was right. So after 18 years of marriage, we are finally figuring out that the best thing we can do for ourselves and our marriage is to give each other the freedom and space to grow, whatever that may look like. For now, while Eric’s cycling to South America, I’ll be back in Nashville working on my own creative projects. I’ll also be serving as mission control for Eric’s journey and peddling with him in spirit (goodness knows I don’t want to actually peddle. I’m more of a support vehicle kind of girl). As our friend Jack said to me, “Eric may be riding the bike, but you’re on the phantom tandem seat.”

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On a little getaway before the trip

Guardians of Our Solitude

Just last week, a good friend sent me some writing about marriage by the poet Rilke — something to strive for indeed.

The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.

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Filed Under: General Thoughts Tagged With: bike trek, broad winged hawk, Eric Masterson, How to Draw a Nekkid Man, Marriage, Rilke, Tricia Rose Burt

The Vet, the Truck Driver, and a Lesson in Service

May 13, 2016 by Tricia Rose Burt

This past week, The Moth MainStage debuted in Nashville. I was honored to share the stage with four amazing storytellers, among them Jerry Neal, a 95-year-old  WWII bomber pilot, who — despite surviving the Depression and a world war — looked maybe 75. [Read more…] about The Vet, the Truck Driver, and a Lesson in Service

Filed Under: General Thoughts Tagged With: Brad Paisley, D-Day, Garrison Keillor, How to Draw a Nekkid Man, Jerry Neal, Nashville, Prairie Home Companion, Russ Ringsak, The Moth, The Ryman, Tricia Rose Burt, WWII

Women Who Stare at Fainting Goats

April 19, 2016 by Tricia Rose Burt

Old friends
The goat owner and me

My dear friend Mary Phil and her husband own a farm just outside of Nashville. Mary Phil and I have known each other since what seems like time began, but actually since we were college sophomores, when we would lay in bed and sing Tammy Wynette at the top of our lungs. I was her maid of honor, some 30 years ago, and I have called her every wedding anniversary to cheer their marriage on. I like being part of their marital success.

[Read more…] about Women Who Stare at Fainting Goats

Filed Under: General Thoughts Tagged With: How to Draw a Nekkid Man, Tennessee Fainting Goats, Tricia Rose Burt

A Cross-Dressing Frosty the Snowman Meets Jesus at the Dump

December 14, 2015 by Tricia Rose Burt

Here in my small New Hampshire town, we take our garbage and recycling to the dump, or “transfer station” if we’re being proper. One of the highlights of the dump is visiting the swap shop — a room loaded with either trash or treasure, depending on your perspective. It’s one of my favorite places to go and Mama’s, too. Forget NH’s natural beauty. Whenever she comes to visit, she always asks, “When are we going to the dump?”

Away in a (Whacky) Manger

The nativity, as imagined at the Hancock, NH dump
The nativity, as imagined at the Hancock, NH dump

Last year, I couldn’t help but notice the fabulous nativity scene that swap shop attendant and fellow artist Evelien Bachrach created. Sure, baby Jesus lays in a manger (with blonde hair, which of course every Jewish man sported 2,000 years ago), and some version of Mary watches over him, but the rest of the characters make up a motley crew of discarded items. There are chickens, a pig, what might be a rabid red dog, alarmed sheep, and a small Trojan horse-like ornament. There’s no Joseph, shepherds, or wise men to be seen, but there’s an African woman in native dress (or maybe she’s from the islands) and Frosty the Snow Man, who looks like he’s cross-dressing with Little Bo Peep. Santa looks concerned, the angel’s content with her doll, and a plaster Teddy bear — joyous despite the hole in his stomach — stands guard. A handmade star hangs from a yellow plastic push pin and just over the particle board roofline, a plate that looks like a photographed pepperoni pizza completes the tableau.

A Christmas Metaphor

To me, this nativity scene provides a handy metaphor for our lives.

Sure we’d like our lives to be a matched set, with all the right parts and players present, to appear dignified so we feel like we have some control. But the truth is, our lives are messy and chipped, and some of the important parts and players are missing. Instead of hosting a conventional family for Christmas dinner where we use the good china, we serve a rag tag group that includes a cross-dressing Frosty the Snowman who eats off a photographed pepperoni pizza plate. Personally, I think that’s much more interesting.

And I think our messy lives make Jesus happy, because there is nothing judgmental or conventional about Jesus. He was always hanging out on the fringes, with the folks that didn’t quite fit in, with the discarded and the despised — lepers, prostitutes, and refugees, an important point to remember this particular Christmas. To Jesus, everybody was family, no matter how different or crazy or broken they might be.

And Speaking of Families

The Tricia Ball, star of The Moth Radio Hour
The Tricia Ball, one of the stars of this week’s The Moth Radio Hour

Starting December 15, I’ll be part of The Moth Radio Hour’s Second Annual Holiday Show, which will be broadcast over more than 500 public radio stations nationwide. I’ll be telling “The Tricia Ball,” a story about my parents’ divorce, our Christmas “celebrations,” and the ornament Daddy made for me when I was very little. The story resonates with anyone who’s ever tried to navigate family drama and heartbreak at a time when we’re supposed to be happy. But as always, humor and redemption can abound even in the bleakest situations.

If you miss the radio show, the story will be available on their podcast beginning December 22. And you can always go to  The Moth and listen to the show online.

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Filed Under: General Thoughts Tagged With: Christmas, Jesus, New Hampshire, The Moth Radio Hour, The Moth Radio Hour's Holiday Show, Tricia Rose Burt

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